PICTORIAL: Celebrating the recovery of Afande Savio Kakooza's mother ANNET NABBOSA

 

My good neigbour and one of the few surviving friends from the days of NEW VISION, Afande Kakooza Savio Ntensibe,  held a SPECIAL THANKS GIVING Prayer at his home on Wednesday 16th October, 2024.

He thanked God for the good things he has done to his family this year,  especially seeing his 71 year old mother Annet Nabbosa, make a miraculous recovery from a stroke which left her half blind and is now out of Hospital. 

Prayers were led by Fathers.; Rev. Fr. Francis Ssemuddu PP St. Gyaviira1 Bunamwaya Parish,  Rev. Fr. Kakooza Dennis from Nakasongola, Rev. Fr. Remmie Ssekisambu from Kiyinda Mityana and Rev. Fr. Mpagi Joseph of Buloba Parish. 

Guests included the 3rd Deputy Prime Minister of Uganda, AIGP. Dr. Hadijja Namutebi, Head of the Chancery President’s Office Hajat Zamina Malole, Commissioner of Police Traffic Operations Ben Mubangizi, Senior Superintendent of Police of Police Kintu Henry, Friends and in-laws.

Third Deputy Prime Minister and Minister without Portfolio Lukia Isanga Nakadama (ABOVE) and below, Head of the Chancery President’s Office Hajat Zamina Malole, and MR & MRS Kakooza.

BOOKLET: The Bernard Onyango Academic Excellence (ACE) awards 2014

 FROM THE ARCHIVES: The Bernard Onyango Academic Excellence (ACE) awards 2014

Rest in Peace Ona

Ever smiling Onapito (right) and wife Cathy at a TC Fundraising dinner in Kampala in June

ONAPITO Ekomoloit was my OB and fellow veteran journalist. I got in touch with him early on September 1, 2024, confident that since he was Nile Breweries Limited's Board Chairman, I would secure a beer sponsorship for an upcoming Family fun day out. The Fun day is being organized by my sub-Parish St Angela Bugema, part of Lweza Parish, to raise funds to complete our local church.(FUN DAY Dec 8) 

Ona responded promptly and provided me with a contact at Nile Breweries to send my proposal.

When I nudged him again on September 7 to inquire about progress, Ona revealed that he was ill and out of office. Board chairmen are usually overwhelmed by requests for financial help, so I wondered if he might be dodging me. Still, I wished him a speedy recovery.

Then, on September 9, two days after I nudged him again, he responded with an emoji of women dancing 💃💃, which I thought was a sign that his health was improving. I even joked about the need for him to go to the gym, so that he can compete in the 'wife carrying competition' on the family fun day scheduled for December 8.

It now turns out his health was at a worse stage than we all knew. He did not improve. It is sad there was no indication anything was out of control. 

I now see he last read his messages yesterday Thursday about 15 hours Uganda time. SAD! He was alive 24 hours ago, and is now gone. LIFE!

On Friday, I noticed that, "suspicious" messages started pouring in on WhatsApp. Typically, that is an indicator that something out of the ordinary has happened, but you may not know who or what, unless you read the message.

So for about one hour I avoided reading WhatsApp messages. 

When I finally dared to peep into one, it read, “Ona is gone!” Ona dead? Ona who was so full of life only three months back? Oh dear!!

At St. Peter's College Tororo, also known as TC, Ona joined in 1987 in S5, a class behind me. I sat A levels (LEG) in March 1988, making it easily to Makerere University with a B in Literature. The following year, Ona hammered the papers with AAC in HEL and after a long debate between taking Law and Mass Comm (journalism), Onapito went for what he saw as his calling. He writes in detail about this in his book "Tears & Triumph".

He was at one point asked, "Do you have to go to university to become a journalist?" by a family friend trying to convince him out of doing Mass Communications (aka journalism) at Makerere. 

He went on to become one of the greatest journalists of our time. His impact in the media industry is undeniable – a prolific writer; a journalism lecturer at Makerere University; a successful presidential press secretary and a highly accomplished corporate affairs professional. 

Ona and I were among the more active members of SPECTOBA, the old Boys association of St Peter's Tororo college. He was the de-facto number two to Wilbrod Owor (former Guild President Makerere) for a while. 

Ona headed the Bernard Onyango Academic Excellence Awards 

Ona frequently related to me how he and I sparked the start of the well-known Bernard Onyango Academic Excellence Awards in about the year 2013. 

There had been a long discussion on the proposal, and after a protracted back-and-forth by the Old Boys, the crunch time came to show "seriousness". There was a long silence until I dared put the first million into the fund to start the fundraising to enable the organization of the first awards. 

Ona followed and put in the second million, and thereafter, many others joined in. He did end up rightly as chair of the BOACE awards committee. (click to read a copy of the 2014 awards booklet)

Last year at the TC Football League at Nakawa, he gave me an autographed copy of his book, “Tears and Triumph” and he wrote, "LJ, thank you for your motivational works of journalism." He indicated that a 2nd edition or follow up book was coming in which he would narrate the Bernard Onyango awards history. 

In February I was also among the lucky few who attended his lovely wedding to Cathy (a Makerere Mass Com contemporary of my wife Nnalongo Lydia Mirembe), at the shores of the lake.  I recall Ona singing, and showing love like never before.

Ona handled nearly everyone who interacted with him with much respect and humility. Reminds me in many ways of my uncle, Professor Charles Lwanga Olweny, first director of the Uganda Cancer Institute from 1972 until 1982.  Before Ona, Olweny, also a TC Ob,  trail blazed as one of the first Ugandan Board chairs of not only NBL, but also UBL, in the 70s.

Ona, like uncle, would often be frank, masking it with a smile.

ONAPITO was a good human. May God Almighty bless his soul, and LET HIM REST IN PEACE. May God give peace to his family too. Bye Bye.

'Our girls' Tororo Girls crew at a TC fundraiser. Ona's Cathy (is 3rd right)

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LINK TO RELATED STORIES (click on them to read)

🔴 Onapito 1966-2024  https://www.independent.co.ug/%f0%9f%94%b4-breaking-news-onapito-ekomoloit-april-1966-september-2024/ 

🔴 HARRY SAGARA on Ona 

🔴 Chief Justice Owiny Dollo kick-starts Tororo College OBs sh3.1 billion drive

🔴 Keynote address May 30th 2014 at Bernard Onyango Memorial

🔴 St. Peter's College: A hub of country smart brains

🔴 VIDEO: Nyangolians being Nyagolians

🔴 #DesertIslandDiscs with Onapito Ekomoloit 

🔴 REST IN PEACE ONA

 

VIDEO: NILE BREWERIES TRIBUTE TO RETIRING ONA

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Bugema Sub Parish plans December 8 fete

• Put this in your DIARY. Holiday and Pre-Christmas event December 8 at school field opposite Wankulukuku stadium

• Fun events will include tug of war, car reverse parking, golf and even a wife-carrying competition!

• Fundraising event to complete building the St Angela Sub Parish, Lweza church

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Will "Tororo Issues" decide the election results in West and East Budama come 2026?

Current and former MPs from Tororo

BELOW are the results of the last election ahead of what is likely to be contentious elections 2026, with the future of Tororo at stake. SOURCE VISIBLE POLLS.ORG (click to read)

🔴 I was on the road and off air 6 hours yesterday & when I logged online, I found that H.E President Museveni was in Tororo saying many things and yet most CONSEQUENTIAL JAP FORUMs were silent like nothing happened. The Jopadhola have given up on 'Tororo issues' it seems pic.twitter.com/nRfB2uUSMP

— Louis Jadwong (@Jadwong) September 14, 2024 

Tororo, Uganda | Remarks by President Yoweri Museveni last week on what was an ordinary visit, could turn out to be decisive in the 2026 elections in the mineral-rich district.

President Yoweri Museveni, among other things, admonished 'Badaama' and Iteso, alleging that each do not want the other to speak their language. 

He had a point, but by dwelling on the least of the worries of the residents of Tororo, he reignited fears that the President might not be sensitive enough to matters that have stagnated Tororo's development politically and economically for two decades. 

"The issue of friction between the Iteso and Badaama is puzzling. Why would a Mudaama have a problem with an Iteso speaking his own dialect and vice versa?" asked Museveni.

The quest for districts and a city status have divided residents of Tororo and manifested itself in many areas of the lives of the residents.

Key to the conflict is demand by residents of Tororo county for a separate district, alleging marginalization by the Jopadhola ethnicity group.

However, a look at the district chairs over the past 30 years shows leaders have previously come from Busia, Bunyole, Bugwere, even an Atesot. This would contradict the allegation of Jopadhola marginalising others.

There is is also no empirical evidence that one group prevents the other from speaking their language. "This is a figment of the creation of some self- seekers, mostly politicians who ride on ethnicity to seek votes," an expert on Tororo matters said.

"What is the situation like in present day Tororo District. Look at population of the various peoples in Tororo District. Naturally the larger the number, the higher the amount of influence in matters but this should not be to the prejudice of the peoples with lesser numbers! " 

Okoth Nyalulu, a long time former RDC and now on the Council of Elders of The Adhola Cultural Institution (TACI) weighed in by saying,  "Many people, and without fear of contradiction, even the President, have not understood what is contentious in the 'Tororo question'. The question is not a mere location of the Municipality or Jopadhola against Iteso per se."

"It is a question of Rights. Through the history of migration, the Jopadhola have Heritage and Aboriginal Rights over the whole Tororo. Tororo was acquired and secured through pouring blood by our ancestors, and it became a Heritage for the Jopadhola," Nyalulu explained to LJ Files.

On the quest for a city, Nyalulu remarked, "Is there a demand for a City in Tororo and the answer is Yes. Tororo Municipality, and even the Town before it was the third most industrialized in Uganda and it is a gate way to Uganda by road and potentially by air," elder Nyalulu remarked recently."

He went to add that "Tororo Municipality was one of the eleven Municipalities that implemented the program of Uganda Support for the Municipal Infrastructure Development, (USMID). All the other ten have been elevated to City status except Tororo."

As the debate raged in the past week on social media, Kampala lawyer Charles Owor concluded that, "Badaama or Jopadhola, whatever you call us... Let us pursue how best to exploit the resources for everyone's benefit, whether you arrived and settled in yesterday or were there a long time ago! We share a common destiny and strive to pursue common goals!"

The Deputy Prime Minster (Deputy Jago) of TACI, Jag Adrian Owor jumped into the debate, worried that there is a misunderstanding about the issues in Tororo.

"I find the use of Teso in many comments about Tororo disturbing. Whereas there are Iteso living in Tororo district there is no Teso in Tororo. People should make a distinction between Iteso (the people) and Teso (a subregion which starts from Bukedea district to Katakwi)."

The issue of Tororo county taking over the historical headquarters of the Jopadhola plus the Tororo Rock has created unease for decades. In 2019, current Uganda Defence Minister Oboth Oboth raised it to a religious level, saying Tororo town was 'our Jerusalem' in parliament in 2019. 

A team had earlier been sent to London to try resolve the impasse, by looking at old maps, but it came to naught.

Oboth argued in parliament that, "what took us to London archives was not about boundaries but the historicity of ethnic settlements in Tororo. The boundary dispute is between who and who? East Budaama and West Budaama, Jopadhola and  Iteso live together. Both sides are mixed through inter-marriages."

History Prof Pontian Okoth was more categorical.

"There is no fight between the Iteso and Japs, they have existed with each other for a long time and now genetically entangled, so the fighting was brought to divert the thinking. The Iteso in Tororo never came from Soroti but instead from Kenya as you can see in the map and have never had issues with the Japs."

Status of Tororo district Constituencies Ahead of 2026 decider! Tororo issues     Data compiled by Louis Jadwong Polls 2026 Ltd (✳source VISIBLE POLLS.org)
NAME	INCUMBENT	Others
Tororo Municipality Constituency	Apollo Yeri Ofwono National Resistance Movement   ✳ 5,169 votes	Okware Edward ✳ 4,564 votes Raganyi Ibrahim Yusuf ✳ 1,174 votes Olweny Charles ✳1,034 votes Emojong Deogratius ✳ 686 votes Ayeyo Silvanus ✳ 182 votes Othieno Romanus ✳ 78 votes Ochwo Godfrey ✳ 67 votes Kaikede Olowo John Stephen ✳ 36 votes
West Budama Central Constituency	Oboth Marksons Jacob National Resistance Movement Candidate (MP).   ✳ 12,084 votes	Okoth Geoffrey Oita ✳7,610 Oturo Jesse Eridad ✳ 468 vote Kirya Moses Isiko ✳ 376 votes Onno Zachariah ✳ 167 votes Oluka John Paul ✳ 103 votes Laaro Peter Ayeka ✳ 50 votes Oketch Ojiek Lazzarus ✳ 0 votes
West Budama South Constituency	Otiam Emmanuel Otaala National Resistance Movement   ✳ 13,648 votes	Owor Franklin ✳ 4,603 votes Akika Emmanuel Othieno ✳ 3,527 votes Katandi Joseph ✳ 739 votes Ongawi Kennedy ✳ 386 votes Oguti Albert Mathias ✳ 75 votes
West Budama North Constituency	Ochai Maximus National Resistance Movement   ✳10,981 votes	Othieno Okoth Richard ✳ 9,856 Owori John Paul ✳1,584 votes Okello Peter Jabweli ✳ 784 votes Alira David Pechokisika Opii ✳278 votes Akichere Gloria Oburu ✳ 175 votes Okongo Leo ✳ 85 votes Aluki George ✳ 24 votes and lost the election
West Budama North East Constituency	Odoi Oywelowo Fox National Resistance Movement   ✳ 11,398	Ogandi Denis Peter ✳  7,171 votes Nyero Vincent ✳  1,572 votes Osinde Owor Okongo Jimmy ✳ 1,051 votes Kayala Micky ✳ 176 votes Osinde Benard ✳  100 votes
Tororo North Constituency	Ekanya Geofrey Forum for Democratic Change   ✳   9,674 votes	Nyakecho Annet ✳ 9,563 votes Othieno Godfrey ✳ 5,834 votes Ekileut James Peter ✳ 201 votes Obbo Johnson Independent ✳131 votes Otabong Charles Jonjo ✳ 122 votes Kalani Isaac ✳51 votes
Tororo women MP position	Achieng Sarah Opendi Candidate for Women Representative (MP) - Tororo National Resistance Movement candidate.   ✳ 76,662 votes	Ayo Jancita Independent ✳ 69,011 votes   Abbo Rose Mary Owere ✳ 7,398 Ojaka Diana ✳ 2,991 votes Abwin Sarah Emojong ✳ 1,290 votes

 Clamor for district

The clamor for districts in Uganda started in the 80s, and saw one of the then biggest districts in the country Tororo (once also called Budama and was part of Bukedi) reduced to a shell. 

Residents of of Tororo county demanded a district that included Tororo town, and a man in Molo subcounty ate a live rat in front of President Museveni in 2005 to demonstrate their desire.

Elders of Padhola had no issue with a district being offered to those of Tororo country, but said it should not be linked to having Tororo town, now municipality, as their capital. They advised a new capital be named from their area.

It is important to note that President Yoweri Museveni soon after in 2006 granted the new district with the headquarters to be located in Mukuju. The Iteso rejected the headquarters in Mukuju claiming Tororo town was their land.

The Jopadhola were enraged as they insist Tororo is their land and headquarters, and cannot just be given out like that.

President Yoweri Museveni also directed that the matter be resolved using the “colonial boundaries” in order to determine where the municipality should be located in the event of a split of the district.

At that point, Professor Oloka Onyango spoke out .

The Makerere University don argued against this in 2017, saying that, " Where a new district has been created, the towns/municipalities have remained the headquarters of the old “mother” district. All the new districts have established new headquarters. This has created a precedent followed without exception. "

" I appeal to the good sense of every citizen of Tororo specifically and Uganda in general to emerge from this narrow, sectarian and selfishly-motivated politicking. Has the creation of 78 new districts since 1995 really improved service-delivery at the local government level?," Onyango argued in a 2017 presentation.

Expert insist that if the main contention is not so much as the creation of these would be ethnic based district, but the location of Tororo Municipality; then against the precedent mentioned by Prof. Oloka Onyango, elevate it to city status and then no one has ethnically based claim to it and it becomes another district with no ethnic connotation. Lately, even smaller towns have become cities!

A map of West and East Budama that
originally formed Tororo district

Origins of Tororo district

Bukedi District was a subdivision of the Eastern Province of the Uganda Protectorate, with headquarters in Mbale. In the early 1920s Bukedi was divided into the Budama, Bugisu and Bugwere districts. 

These were recombined into Mbale District during World War II (1939–1945), then split in 1954 into a new, smaller Bukedi District to the west and Bugisu District to the east, sharing Mbale Township as their administrative headquarters. In 1968 the administrative headquarters of Bukedi District were moved to Tororo. Later Bukedi District was split up into a number of smaller districts.

In all these arrangements, Bugwere and Bugisu were separated again, and Bugwere was again combined with Budama to create Bukedi District. The district contained the counties of Pallisa, Budaka-Bugwere, Bunyole, West Budama, Tororo, and Samia-Bugwe.

All these have in the 80s and 90s broken off, leaving a shell of Tororo.

Tororo historically comprised West and Eastern Budama, according the Prof Pontian Okoth who has written a book on the history of Padhola from 1500.

According to Prof Okoth, at some point, the colonial state was thrown into confusion by the state of disunity among Jopadhola clans and between the Jopadhola and the Iteso community based in Tororo.

The Nyapolo Ogule clan which was the dominant clan and predominantly catholic wanted to rule Padhola. This could not be allowed by the other clans, most of which were Protestants. They had many of their children who had obtained formal education, they also had the support of the colonial state.

The Iteso wanted a special status because of their numbers that had arrived from Kenya . 

The Jopadhola could not allow this kind of development noting Budama was their land.  

Jopadhola elders always argued that this would result in ethnically based administrative units which would fail to take cognizance of the history and aboriginal claims of the Japs. 

The colonial state had nevertheless decided in 1938, to divide Budama County into East and West making two County headquarter for easy administration. 

West Budama remained with the original headquarter at Kisoko while East Budama had its headquarter at Mukuju. Both headquarters were equidistant (6 miles) from the Main Post office at Tororo. Both religions and inter-clan conflicts were serious problems in Padhola.

Tororo, being a key railway and road link to Kenya and the rest of the country, was still the third most powerful industrial town in Uganda by the time NRM came to power in 1986.

The rest of the people in Tororo preferred that instead of Tororo being part of the new district being demanded for, it becomes a city to serve all.

Kwar Adhola's stand

Kwar Adhola Moses Stephen Owor, 98, is the King and cultural head of the Jopadhola. He has been consistent on stating that Tororo welcomes visitors for the sake of harmony. Indeed Tororo was at one time referred to as the "United Nations of Uganda" because of many tribes living peacefully together.

Kwara has previously had face to face discussions with both the late Emorimor Papa Osubani and the current one Emoloit and gave them the message; unity of purpose, even with diversity in cultures.

That has been his stand even in meetings with President Yoweri Museveni, where he has actually stated that the Jopadhola have no problem being to referred to, as they rightly should, as Badaama.That was the source of the names West Budama and East Budama.

Deputy Katikkiro of Buganda Ssendaula (left)  delivers a message from
 The Kabaka of Buganda Ronald Mutebi to
 King of the Jopadhola, the Kwar Adhola Moses Owor. 
 The Adhola Kingdom Prime Minister Josel Obbo is middle.
This was at the Adha Adhola funeral rites in Tororo in 2017

He explained that the name Wadama originated from a mis presentation of the word "widoma" in Dhopadhola meaning you will see or you have seen my strength or might. When enemies heard the Jopadhola warriors chanting this they thought that was the name of the people fighting them. Hence Wadama instead of widoma.

However Prof Pontian Okoth is not having any of it.

"There is no need for unnecessary confusion. What is wrong with calling ourselves Jopadhola? We should always remember that we are descendants of Adhola. That is the original history 'widoma' 'wadama' ' Badama',etc,true but these were later concoctions. Let us, therefore, return to our roots, I suggest, without insinuating that the debate ends."

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King of the Jopadhola Moses Owor says Tororo for all, calls for unity (click to read)

https://www.independent.co.ug/king-jopadhola-moses-owor-says-tororo-calls-unity/

An abridged history of Padhola, 1500 - 1999

https://www.independent.co.ug/an-abridged-history-of-padhola-1500-1999/

Jopadhola emboldened by Luo elders’ visit, says Adhola king

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Eight instances in life where staying silent is the best thing to do

Know when to keep silent

BY Mark Olweny-Omalla

In life, the moments we choose to stay silent often speak louder than any words we could utter. Silence, when used wisely, can be a powerful tool for handling various situations effectively. Whether it’s cooling down during an argument, listening more intently, or deciding not to engage in gossip, knowing when to hold your tongue can change the outcome of many scenarios for the better. 

In this article, I explore eight specific instances where silence isn’t just golden, but is advantageous. It  allows you to navigate your life with more wisdom and grace.

1. When you’re angry

We’ve all been here. Caught in the heat of an argument, emotions are high and everyone’s on the defensive. It’s in these instances that staying silent can be  most beneficial. When we’re angry, we tend to say things we don’t mean and later regret. It’s a knee-jerk reaction to protect ourselves and our ego.

But, is it really worth it?

Choosing to hold your tongue can prevent a lot of unnecessary heartache and damage. It allows you to gather your thoughts, calm your emotions, and respond in a more controlled manner once the storm has passed. And it’s not just me saying this, in fact, many wise people have expressed similar views that everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. So next time you’re fuming, remember silence may just be the best response.

2. When you’re unsure

Confession time! I hav been guilty before of trying to sound knowledgeable about a topic I knew little about. But guess what? It backfired. I was in a meeting discussing the movements of the Luo. Wanting to impress, I jumped in with my thoughts, only to realise they were unfounded and wrong. The room went silent and it was painfully clear that I had no clue about what I was talking about. Silence would’ve been golden, before I made my views heard, in that instance. If you’re unsure about something or lack the necessary information, it’s okay to stay quiet. It gives you the chance to listen, learn, and gather the information needed to form an educated opinion. As the old saying goes, “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt that you are actually a fool”.  

3. When you’re listening

Listening is an art that not everyone has mastered. In my journey as a mindfulness enthusiast, I have learned that listening truly to someone, can make a huge difference. It’s when we are silent and attentive that we are able to comprehend and understand what the other person is saying. It shows respect and allows for effective communication. It is about being present, but letting the other person speak, without planning your response or interrupting with your own story. 

4. When criticism isn’t constructive

Criticism is a tricky area. When it is constructive, it can lead to growth and improvement.  But when it is plain negative, it can be damaging and unproductive. We are more likely to remember and react to negative experiences than positive ones. This means that negative criticism can stick with us and affect our self-esteem and performance. So, what should you do when you’re faced with unconstructive criticism? Stay silent. Responding to negative criticism often just fuels the fire and wastes your energy. Instead, choose not to engage. Take a moment to reflect on whether there’s any truth to the criticism. If there isn’t, let it slide. How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. So, choose silence as your reaction to unconstructive criticism.

5. When your silence can speak volumes

Here’s a twist. Sometimes, staying silent is the loudest statement you can make. Sounds paradoxical, right? There are moments when you are expected to react, to defend yourself, to argue back. But what if you don’t? What if you choose silence instead? In those instances, your silence can be a powerful tool. It can communicate your disapproval, your boundaries, or your refusal to engage in negativity.

6. When someone else is taking credit for your work

It’s a tough situation to be in. You have worked hard on a project or function, only for someone else to swoop in and take the credit. It is natural to want to stand up and shout about your involvement. But, is that the best course of action?  Does calling them out publicly benefit you or does it make you look petty? Is there a way to handle it privately? Often, staying silent at the moment and addressing the situation later can be more beneficial. This protects your professional image, and reduces workplace drama.

7. When you are processing grief or loss

Grief is a heavy burden to bear. When loss hits, it can feel like a tidal wave of emotions that leaves you gasping for air.

People often feel the need to fill the silence with words of comfort, condolences, or even well-meaning advice.

But sometimes, all you need is SILENCE. It allows you to process your emotions, to reflect, and to just be with your feelings. It Is okay not to have any words to say. It is okay not to be okay. And it’s more than okay to seek silence and solitude when you are navigating the rough waters of grief.

8. When you’re tempted to gossip

We all know how enticing a juicy piece of gossip can be. It’s like a siren’s song, luring us into sharing it with others. But here’s the thing, gossip breeds negativity. It can harm relationships, damage reputations, and create a toxic environment. When the temptation to gossip strikes, staying silent can be your best bet. It shows your integrity and prevents unnecessary drama. Abstaining from gossip also helps in fostering a positive and trustworthy image for yourself among your peers. After all, if you don’t spread gossip about others, they are more likely to trust that you won’t spread it about them either.

 Reflecting on the power of silence.

Understanding when to remain silent can significantly enhance the quality of both our interactions and our internal peace. The above eight scenarios underscore the diverse benefits of choosing silence - from avoiding unnecessary conflicts and fostering deeper understanding to preserving personal dignity and strengthening emotional resilience.

Silence is not about inaction; rather, it’s a strategic choice that can lead to more thoughtful and impactful actions. By recognizing the power of silence in these instances, we equip ourselves with a subtle yet strong tool to enhance our relationships and personal well-being.

Remember, sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.

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Mark Olweny-Omalla,  Koch Clan Leader.

e-mail: markolweny_omalla@yahoo.com